Holiday Hustle: What it Means for Families with Special Needs and Easy Steps Prepare You and Your Child for Holiday Gatherings

The holiday season is often described as “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for families with children who have special needs, it can feel more like a marathon than a celebration. Between shopping, baking, family gatherings, and festive activities, the hustle and bustle can bring unique challenges that require extra planning and care.

Why Holidays Can Be Overwhelming

Holiday parties and traditions engage all our senses—bright lights, loud music, new smells, and unfamiliar foods. For neurodiverse children, these sensory experiences can quickly become overwhelming. Imagine walking into a crowded room filled with flashing decorations, multiple conversations, and strong scents from candles and food. Add hugs, itchy clothes, and unfamiliar tastes, and you have a recipe for sensory overload.

Signs of Stress and Why Guidance Matters

Adults know how to step away when things get too stressful. Children, especially those with special needs, often don’t have those coping strategies yet. Stress can lead to meltdowns—crying, tantrums, or shutting down. That’s why proactive planning and gentle guidance are essential.

Tips to Set Your Child Up for Success

Plan Ahead

✔️ Keep a consistent schedule in the days leading up to the event.

• Talk about who will be at the party—show pictures if possible.
• Explain what will happen during the party so your child knows what to expect.

✔️ Coordinate with the Host

• Ask if you can arrive early to avoid the rush.
• Let them know you might need to leave early—this reduces pressure if things get overwhelming.

✔️ Comfort First

• Dress your child in comfortable clothes. Fancy outfits can feel itchy or restrictive.
• Feed your child beforehand in case they don’t like the food served.

✔️ Pack a “Calm Kit”

• Snacks your child enjoys.
• Favorite toys or comfort items.
• Headphones to reduce noise.

During the Party

• Estimate how long your child can tolerate the environment – and leave before they reach their limit.
• Find a quiet space for breaks.
• Watch for early signs of stress—be a detective!
• If Plans Change, That’s Okay

Sometimes, attending a party just isn’t possible. Your child will show signs, such as irritability and agitation, to help make the decision about your attendance. If it looks like it’s not going to happen, create your own celebration at home:

• Watch a holiday movie.
• Listen to festive music.
• Enjoy a special snack. Or consider a smaller, quieter gathering.
• Keep Calm and Give Grace

No matter what happens, remember to stay calm. Children pick up on our emotions. Give yourself and your child grace—this season is about joy, not perfection.